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Friday, 29 January 2016

Red Tones

So i bought this amazing dress from H&M for £14.99!! Yes £14.99 which i purchased for NYE to wear to Hogmanay, i am such a fan of the maxi dress and the over the top maxi dress at that, so i could not let this bad boy slip through my fingers...

For Hogmanay i wore the dress with my studded waist belt and my flat over the knee Kurt Geigers  as i knew it would be a looooong night if i wore heels (and i probably would not be able to walk for a few days afterwards) But for this shoot i thought i would dress it up a bit more as it is such a show stopper.

Ive paired it with my Public Desire Lace Up Shoes (which you can get here but as they are in the sale there are not many sizes left but these are a gorgeous alternative plus theres 10% off everything at Public Desire at the mo with code SASSY) and a old Sparkly belt from River Island... this dress will definitely be part of my wedding week wardrobe!!

P.s please ignore my make up free face! some days I'm just too lazy to put my face on.... and also please ignore the annoying black dot that has decided to show up in all my pics!! if anyone has a solution to this please get in touch as its driving me crazyyyyyy x










Thursday, 21 January 2016

Is Strong the New Skinny?

Over the last 12 months there seems to have been a rise in the 'strong over skinny' look, with Millie Mackintosh, Lucy Mecklenburgh and Khloe Kardashian leading the way for the fit and toned look opposed to the skeletal model frame, which is a fantastic for today's impressionable youth... I only wish that this was the case when I was younger and more impressionable.

It's not something I generally talk about or really think about anymore as its not a healthy pastime of mine, when I was 15 and obsessed with fashion I loved Paris Hilton, Victoria Beckham, Mary Kate and Ashley Olsen, Kate Moss and all the fashionistas of that time who really made me fall in love with fashion the only downside was that these ladies were extremely skinny and I was not.... I had always been chubby whether it was genetics or being over fed by my mum (I can only assume I was over fed to try and compensate for the loss of my father... We have to learn comfort eating from somewhere I suppose) but I certainly did not have the frame of my idols; the older I got the more my frame evened out though I have always had curves I found I lost my 'puppy fat' as my mum would call it, but then I found boys.... One thing I wish I could go back and tell my younger self is don't listen to boys and their stupid opinions ones who care would never be cruel, but there was no one to tell me this so I fell in to a trap with a controlling boy who made comments like 'I would love it if you were thinner' or 'look how amazing she looks' and that really was the beginning of long and dangerous road in my life....

I became obsessed with being thin because that would fix everything, my boyfriend was cheating because I wasn't thin enough all the stupid things you think to rationalise what your doing, I did everything in my power to be thin and after 6 months I had easily lost over a stone but it became a competition with myself, I needed to loose more weight than the day before, the week before even and I would weigh myself 3 times a day to try stop myself 'getting fatter' I did the usual wearing baggy clothes because obviously you want to be so thin but you don't want anyone to notice and confront you about it.... It still baffles me now how it became such a trap so quickly. Anyway move on a few years and a few boyfriends and I was still struggling to the point where my parents were worried, my friends noticed a difference I hated going out for dinner and I just became a shadow of myself but hey I was skinny so the world was great right? Wrong and the skinny socialites were becoming more and more popular Nicole Richie was one of my idols who was obviously also going through a very tough time as was Mary Kate Olsen and then Miss Moss declared "Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels" there was nothing thing wrong with me we were all just keeping slim it was part of being a grown up and a fashion lover surely?

Until the side effects started to kick in of years of starving my body of everything it needed, these came in the form of fainting, loosing feelings in my hands, regular dizzy spells and struggling to hold a conversation it got so bad that when I did eat my stomach would hurt so badly I could hardly stand up in later years I discovered it was my acid levels as I starved myself amongst other things it would cause the acid levels in my body to imbalance and when I ate it would upset the acid levels even more which caused horrific pains in my upper abdomen, unfortunately this didn't stop me as hey I had skinny legs I needed to get (body dysmorphia is also one issue that comes with eating issues I will never really know how skinny I was I avoided photos and only ever saw the larger version of myself in the mirror). Then 7 years ago Louis came in to my life (we knew each other in high school but had not seen each other for years) I feel awful now for everything I put him and my loved ones through but he stuck by me and just loved me for me not how I looked (well except my taste in clothes as I dressed 'differently' to girls around here as he would always tell me) and even then I could not give up my habit it was part of me and every fashion girl was skinny, the bloggers, the fashionistas even the WAGs were skinny, I needed to be the same as them to be happy or so I thought.

After putting Louis through a few years of hell which includes mood swings and avoiding eating with anyone and pretending I was fine I hit one huge wall.... I had hardly eaten for days and we were traveling to the shops and then suddenly whilst we were in the car my temperature soared, my heart started beating through my chest, I couldn't breathe and then my hands and legs just went I lost all feeling I panicked and Louis was amazing he was and always has been my rock, he pulled over and carried me out of the car and sat with me until I cooled down and calmed down and then I realised this was hurting more than just me, here was a boy who loved me for me he didn't care how I looked and he still loved me even after the hell I must have put him through and even though it's been a long road and I will never be 'cured' of my poisonous thoughts, I learnt to control them not just for me but for us, I make healthy choices I try not to over eat and I now manage to maintain a realistic weight and I'm happy genuinely happy and even with my wedding coming up I haven't gone crazy like I thought I would because I'm marrying a man who loves me no matter (sorry for the soppiness)

So we roll forward to today where it's now the thing to be strong not skinny and I love it! Where were the Kardashians and their curves when I was young? Where was Lucy with her rock hard abs when all I had to look at was Paris Hiltons protruding rib cage? These amazing women who work out and eat well are what the youngsters of today need like my little sister who is 15 and I just feel so happy that she has some amazing role models out there who are promoting women embracing their bodies, their curves and general fitness and are showing that to be fabulous, to be admired you can be real and that real women have curves!

Sunday, 17 January 2016

Winter Staples





So over the winter there has been one outfit combination that has been on repeat for pretty much every blogger, celeb and fashionista.....
The oversized chunky knit and over the knee boots

This cable knit effect jumper is amazing the little flecks of colour through it really add something to it, its from a company called Missy Empire and you can get it here, there is currently 20% off everything on the site with the code STAYFRESH (until 18.01.16) which makes this gorgeous jumper only £16!!!
I ordered the S (though i was sent a M) which fits great it makes me so tempted to order a few other colours, i was really dubious about ordering from a site i hadnt really heard of before but i was not disappointed, though i did order a lot of stuff and quite a bit went back (more because it was before Christmas) i am so specific on what i want to wear most things do not live up to my expectations, but its worth ordering from them they have some amazing things online! I cant wait to see what they bring out for summer.

I have paired it up with my beloved over the knee boots which i have had for a year or so, they were from H&M and were a absolute bargain and i have literally lived in them at every opportunity, now there are so many similar pairs on the market at the moment and one place that seems to be standing out from the crowd is Public Desire, they have so many beautiful styles of shoes and boots i have a few additions to my wardrobe and i love them! i cant wait for payday as a few more pairs may be making their way to my wardrobe, anyway similar styles to the ones i have can be found here which are stiletto heels and are amazing but for those who want something they can run around all day in and still feel their toes then maybe these are a better option, and finally i have to share these as the tortoise shell heel is just amazing and is starting to become their signature look with their winter boots. P.S if you sign up to their newsletter you get a 10% off code!

So lastly i finished off the look with a waist belt and my favourite scarf which is from the mens section in H&M just to make it a little different to the generic jumper and over the knee boot look.

xoxox

Tuesday, 12 January 2016

Tones Of Winter

So with the weather here in Wales being less than inspiring, i find the colours i reach for everyday are navy and black and trying to be creative with those shades can be difficult.....

My go to items at the moment are my H&M leather pants and my Topshop Waistcoat, they are comfortable and chic and are so easy to throw on, i paired them with my Givenchy inspired jumper which is super toasty which i need in this weather and my Public Desire lace up shoes which are not the easiest to keep clean in this weather but they always look amazing.

Nothing beats a simple tailored item in your wardrobe that can instantly elevate any outfit in to something chic and pulled together.





Friday, 8 January 2016

New Year New Post.......

So 2015 has not been the best year it most definitely has been a roller coaster of extreme highs and extreme lows, one of the highest highs was getting to see my best friend get married in June just to be part of it and witness that moment was overwhelming and a emotional roller coaster and was most definitely what i needed after having a year riddled with sadness and realisation that my own wedding would be missing some of the most important people in life, my friends wedding made me realise that you have to embrace the present and be grateful for the wonderful people you get to share it with and even though it has been a long upward battle to get back to where i was over a year ago i finally feel like i am in a better place with plenty to look forward too.

We travelled to Germany, Paris, India (documented on my travel blog) and so many other fab places here in the UK and to top it all off we brought in 2016 in Edinburgh at the Hogmanay Street Party which is always such a amazing experience, we stayed in a holiday home at Moretonhall Caravan site 9 minutes outside of Edinburgh centre which was amazing and so spacious especially as we shared it with 2 of our best friends and was brand new for £280 for 2 nights, along with a onsite shop and restaurant and a bus stop right outside which has regular buses in to the centre in was perfect for our Scottish adventure.

So back to the last 12 months (as i have been extremely absent) has been a crazy one which has allowed me to really refocus whats important to me in life and has really toughened me up, wedding planning has probably been my saving grace as it has really allowed me to throw myself in to something and just escape reality (my favourite thing to do when times are grey); Louis and i are getting married in a 12th Century Chateau in Poitiers France, a stunning 16 bedroom chateau set in 56 acres of land in the middle of the french countryside; Louis knew immediately that was where we would be married but i took a little more time to come around to the idea (i think it must be a indecisive woman thing) but now i am over the moon that we will be married there, the character of the whole estate is amazing and the grounds are stunning including the tree arch leading up to the chateau where we will have our wedding breakfast and now it is only 6 months away its all starting to feel very real!

Our last year of living at home rent free (sob, sob im still not sure if im ready to be a real grown up with real bills) has allowed us to save for the wedding but to also fit in quite a few little trips including 2 long weekends in Paris (obviously enroute to see our venue), Paris has a huge place in mine and Louis's heart we try to go as often as possible and really just soak up the atmosphere (and of course the fashion)  we stay in the most amazing apartment that really does feel like our home away from home the link to their site is here, it is based in a amazing area with shops, bars and metro stations all within a 10 minute walk it is our go to place when ever we stop in Paris.

So this unearthed I'm hoping to get back in the blogging game and also mix it up a little with a bit more life style stuff mixed in with outfit posts... Watch this space

So enough waffling on before we move forward to 2016 here is a little round up of my 2015......